By Karen Aquino
Like many siblings, Gillian and David Berry â09 get along well, occasionally bickering yet always eventually resolving their differences. The Berry siblings do have two distinguishing qualities that set them apart from most siblings: they are fraternal twins and they are both sophomores.
â[Being on the same campus as David] is pretty normal,â Gillian said. âIâve never known any different, since weâve always gone to the same school, so Iâm used to it.â
At the Upper School, 70 students out of approximately 800 have siblings on campus, with an even greater number of students having siblings at the Middle School.
âHaving a sibling at the Upper School is totally different from having a sibling at the Middle School or at another school,â psychologist Luba Bek said. âYouâre around the same people, the same teachers.â
Bek says that having a sibling at the Upper School can have both an upside and a downside.
âThereâs always going to be a comparison between the students, even if itâs not necessarily competition,â Bek said. âTeachers inadvertently compare siblings theyâve taught, saying, âIt runs in the familyâ or âThe brother isnât like the sister.â [As a student], you donât want to be compared because if your sibling is a stellar athlete or a stellar student, that puts pressure on you to be the same or outdo your sibling.â
Also, when an older student has a younger sibling on campus, the role of protector can be overbearing.
âThe older sibling might think that with all of [his/her] responsibilities, they still have to additionally act as protector to their younger sibling,â Bek said. Students make the best of these possible conflicts that could arise between siblings.
âSince we take different classes, we donât really compete that much, and in the classes we both take, we help each other out, like during finals, when we studied together for our common classes,â Gillian said. The actual interactions between siblings can be minimal, due to different groups of friends and different schedules.
âIâll be with my brother for about 20 minutes; we have a couple of the same frees and a lot of the same friends, so that makes it really easy [to spend time together],â Alexa Bagnard â08 said.
Among the upsides of being on the same campus, students can have first-person insight into the intricacies of upper school life from another, and in some cases more experienced, point of view.
âFor the older siblings, itâs nice to act as a protector and a wise guide to younger siblings,â Bek said. âThey can tell them the gossip, the inside information and guide them.â
âI like [having my sister on campus] because she lets me know everything ahead of me,â Matt Bagnard â09 said. âShe experienced tenth grade here, so she lets me know what Iâm in for.â
Younger students can also indirectly benefit from the privileges awarded seniors.
âSometimes my sister will bring me back food from when she goes off campus,â Hunter Spinks â09 said.
âSince I donât have my license, my sister and I carpool to school, and we talk a lot on the way to and from school,â Katie Barcay â08 said.
The relationship between siblings at school is sometimes affected by the increased frequency of seeing each other. Since people like familiarity and having a familiar face near, the presence of a sibling on campus can be a comforting one, Bek said.
âMy sister is like my best friend. If I have a problem, I can find her and talk to her about it,â Barcay said. âIâll miss her after she graduates.â